You is kind. You is smart. You is important.” -Aibileen Clark
Anyone else have this quote from The Help stick with them for long after you had seen the movie? It certainly stuck with me. It seemed important somehow. I know now that it is very important and within it, a powerful lesson, the power of speaking affirmations.
People are mean. And as you grow up and go through life you hear people telling you that you are dumb, or ugly, or look like a boy, or have a terrible voice, or that you aren’t important, or that you can’t do this or that, or will never achieve your dreams.
And you start to believe them.
Little by little these things start building in your subconscious and you become what others told you you were or weren’t. So what can you do, it is your subconscious after all? You can start telling yourself the things you want to be and little by little those positive things will start building and push out the negative.
Yes. It is that simple.
Of course you have to put in the work as well, but as you start feeling good about yourself, start loving yourself again, you will find that you naturally want to do those things to help you improve. Even with weight loss. Yes, you have to get off the couch and stop eating garbage, but if you tell yourself you are strong and beautiful and say it out loud, your subconscious will soak it up and your body will be more willing to change because your mind believes it.
The mind is a powerful thing!
So, on my bathroom mirror, along with a picture that makes me happy, is a positive affirmation I tell myself every day. Yes, I talk to myself in the mirror on a daily basis. It’s weird, sure, but just by doing that one small act I slowly started to notice myself walking with my head up and smiling at people and realizing that I am worth loving, even today, when I’m not perfect and I’m not exactly where I want to be. I love myself and my potential within.
Think of things you want to change, things you want to be true. Make it personal to you. Write them down as if they are fact, and put them somewhere where you will see them multiple times a day. Read them aloud! Look yourself in the eyes or visualize yourself deep within, as you speak them. Not just once but time and time again, as often as you can. (You have a lot of years of negativity to push aside.) Tell yourself that you are and you will be! Don’t dwell on the negative, take note and resolve to be better tomorrow, but mostly find the positive and celebrate it. Do the same with your kids because that’s where it all starts.
I am a great mom. I am a fantastic wife. I can do hard things. I am a beautiful woman. I am strong.
What you think, you become. What you feel, you attract. What you imagine, you create.” –Buddha
Some of my favorite affirmations:
- I am improving every day.
- It’s okay to make mistakes.
- I embrace change and the challenges that come with it.
- I can make good choices.
- I believe in myself.
- I am smart and talented.
- I forgive myself and let go of the past.
- I will forgive others quickly and completely.
- I deserve love and respect.
- I am beautiful inside and out.
- I am strong and capable.
- I can do hard things.
- I am healthy.
- I am happy.
Always remember to love yourself!
I would love to see pictures of your positive affirmations and where you put them so that you will see them often.