If you want your body to love you, then you have to learn to love yourself first… right now… not tomorrow, not in six months, not next year, and definitely not when you have it all figured out. Honestly, I don’t know that any of us will ever have it all figured out, all at the same time. When I finally figure out how to do laundry on a regular basis, I suddenly can’t get the dishes done every night. Or, I get dishes and laundry figured out, but my children are suddenly being raised by wolves. Someday, I suspect I will have home and family down, but something else will be lacking. There is always something we could be doing better.
It’s easier said than done, I know, and especially for women who are very good at finding flaws in others, but even more so in themselves. I struggle with it, I’ve had 2 kids and gained a bunch of weight and have the stretch marks to prove it. My body is NOT what it used to be, and never will be again, but as I am learning, the more you love yourself, the more things start to come together…. which is proof that I am still in the baby stages as not much tends to come together. 😉 On the other side of that though, when I am depressed and self-loathing, nothing gets done and everything falls apart.
So, love yourself right now, fat, flaws, and fears included.
But how do you do that? How do you love yourself when we’ve been taught as a society that we are not good enough? First of all, let me just say there is a difference between feeling like you’re not good enough and feeling like you want to improve. For starters, one is negative and the other is positive. It seems small, but it is HUGE!
Consider to following statements…
- “I am ugly and fat. Nothing looks good on me. I am not attractive. Why would anybody love me? What do I have to offer? I am a bad mom and a bad wife.”
- “I need to lose weight and get healthy. I want to have more energy and feel good. I know I can do it if I eat well and go on walks. It will also help me have more confidence, be more active with my kids, and have more energy for my husband.”
I have told myself both. One stops progress in its tracks. The other opens the doors and windows to possibilities. It’s a beautiful thing when we work to improve ourselves. Okay, so again, how? Well, I’m no expert, but I have my own experiences for what works for me and I think they will work for you, too, if you give them a try.
How to start loving yourself right now:
Tell yourself positive affirmations.
Sweat. Exercise releases endorphins. Endorphins make you happy. (Legally Blonde anyone?)
Get outside. Vitamin D from sunshine is a great mood booster.
Accomplish something you’ve always wanted to do, but have deemed too difficult. You can do hard things!
Take care of your body. Eat well, you’ll be amazed at how good you feel when your body is getting what it needs.
Do something. I love the feeling I get when I’ve had a productive day.
Be yourself! You’ll be so much happier. If you don’t know who you are, I suggest you take some time and find yourself.
Do things that make you happy.